How your heart makes you happy.

To be happy you must be healthy. Your good health is your happiness. It is hard to happy when sick, there is always a constant remembrance of pain or inadequacy.

Some years back I developed tooth ache and I had to remove the tooth eventually.

Oh geees, the pain I went through for months can not be explained. I remember days when I self medicate, take doses of pain killers because the pain was unbearable.

Happiness is nothing more than good health. 

Also there are pains that are not physical, which affects our heart, our happiness.

Have you wondered why or how the heart is associated with love.

A man can developed a heart attack immediately he hears the news of Infidelity. 

The thought of a bad business, loss of business. Sad news easily affects our heart and in some cases leads to severe illness, sometimes even death.

We experience symptoms of chest pain, discomfort and pressure, pain in areas such as the arms, neck, back and jaw, as well as shortness of breath, sweating and discomfort that mimics heartburn.

How is it even possible that thoughts, news, stories, affection, feelings is linked to our heart. Meanwhile There is no physical cell that can be easily attributed to it.

o be happy you must be healthy. Your good health is your happiness. It is hard to happy when sick, there is always a constant remembrance of pain or inadequacy.

Some years back I developed tooth ache and I had to remove the tooth eventually.

Oh geees, the pain I went through for months can not be explained. I remember days when I self medicate, take doses of pain killers because the pain was unbearable.

Happiness is nothing more than good health. 

Also there are pains that are not physical, which affects our heart, our happiness.

Have you wondered why or how the heart is associated with love.

A man can developed a heart attack immediately he hears the news of Infidelity. 

The thought of a bad business, loss of business. Sad news easily affects our heart and in some cases leads to severe illness, sometimes even death.

We experience symptoms of chest pain, discomfort and pressure, pain in areas such as the arms, neck, back and jaw, as well as shortness of breath, sweating and discomfort that mimics heartburn.

How is it even possible that thoughts, news, stories, affection, feelings is linked to our heart. Meanwhile There is no physical cell that can be easily attributed to it.

Our heart beats 100,000 times a day and pumps like 2000 gallons of blood. 

We also read that the heart, which is a muscle, has twice the power of the leg muscles of someone sprinting. 

If the hearts works this hard, is it very important we care for it well. Doing the right things, eating the right foods and having the right thoughts. 

A man can die faster if the thoughts in his heart are unhealthy. Unhappiness leads to depression, eventually death.

We have been told:

  1.  To exercise regularly. 
  2. To check up with the doctor periodically.
  3. Cut down cholesterol.
  4. Reduce salt.
  5. Quit smoking.

Always do this and your heart muscle will be fine.

What about the aspect of our heart that is connected to love, emotions, feelings. How to we care.

We will discuss this too.

Remain happy.

 heart beats 100,000 times a day and pumps like 2000 gallons of blood. 

We also read that the heart, which is a muscle, has twice the power of the leg muscles of someone sprinting. 

If the hearts works this hard, is it very important we care for it well. Doing the right things, eating the right foods and having the right thoughts. 

A man can die faster if the thoughts in his heart are unhealthy. Unhappiness leads to depression, eventually death.

We have been told:

  1.  To exercise regularly. 
  2. To check up with the doctor periodically.
  3. Cut down cholesterol.
  4. Reduce salt.
  5. Quit smoking.

Always do this and your heart muscle will be fine.

What about the aspect of our heart that is connected to love, emotions, feelings. How to we care.

We will discuss this too.

Remain happy.

Bridge Builder

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Let me share this story, I am sure it will bless someone.
In the little town where I now work, though its a state capital but in the real sense it not as active as many local government areas where I had lived.
Farming is the major occupation, and I hope to start my big farm one day. 

I got to know two brothers who lived on adjoining farms, big farms l tell you, each will be like 10 hectares.
One of the brothers is my friend, this means i get fruits always. 

One day he fell into conflict with his elder brother, It was the first serious fight since they have been farming side by side, sharing machinery, and trading labor and goods as needed without a hitch.

 There long collaboration fell apart. It began with a small misunderstanding and it grew into a major difference, and finally it exploded into an exchange of bitter words. 

One morning, after we ate breakfast (Masa and fish vegetable soup)  masa is a dish in the northan Nigeria made with rice. You can call it rice cake.  

There was a knock on Ibrahim’s. His wife opened it to find a man with a carpenter’s toolbox.

 “I’m looking for work,” he said.
“Perhaps you would have a few small jobs here and there.

 Could I help you?”
“Yes,” said Ibrahim from the dining table. “I do have a job for you. 

Look across the river at that farm. That’s my neighbor, in fact, it’s my brothers. 

Last week there was a fight between us and he took his bulldozer to the river  and now there is a creek between us. Well, he may have done this to spite me, but I’ll get at him.

See that pile of wood by the barn? I want you to build me a fence – an 8-foot fence – so I won’t need to see his place anymore.  

The carpenter said, “I think I understand the situation. Show me the exact location so that I will be able to do a job that pleases you.”
The carpenter worked hard all that day measuring, sawing, nailing. 

About sunset when myself and Ibrahim returned, the carpenter had just finished his job. Our eyes opened wide,  jaw dropped. 

There was no fence there at all. 

It was a bridge… a bridge stretching from one side of the creek to the other! A fine piece of work handrails and all.

You are quite a fellow to build this bridge after all I’ve said and done.” My friend told the old Carpenter.


To cut the long story short:

The two brothers stood at each end of the bridge, and then they met in the middle, taking each other’s hand.  

I was glad these two are back together, not because of the plenty fruits and food crops I get at harvest, and not for the fact that I will soon be investing in agriculture.  

But they did not know I called the old Carpenter to help settle the rift between them. 

I am happy i am a bridge builder, you too can be a bridge builder. 
Like me, if you cannot build the bridge yourself get someone, people you think are filled with wisdom, maturity, who will be willing to help. 

Bridge builders are people with a big heart they love to see others happy. 

 They encourage others and help them achieve more.
So many times we fall short of how to help people, but we know who can help. 

Well, if you have the qualities below, you might consider yourself a bridge builder. Rather if you are looking for one, you can check out this qualities in them.

  • A bridge builder listens. 
  • They provide opportunities. They help others to learn.
  • They are good communicators.
  • A bridge builder is patient.
  • They encourage you, help you.
  • They are always happy with your achievements.

When we see people in difficult situations, in pain, some made big mistakes don’t laff at them, like we do these days on social media. 

Reach out to help, console them, advice them and encourage them, point them to someone that can help.

You are building the bridge gradually.

Share these article with your friends and discuss on building bridges, that is one step to raise bridge builders.

Remain happy.

What I Told The Pencil

There are 5 things you need to know,” about the pencil. 

Before you continue to read, remember, to get ahead in this world we live in, Self Discipline is the key.

The ability to ask yourself honest questions and answer correctly and then follow them with actions will make you happy. 

PENCIL STORY CONT…

Always remember these principles and never forget, and you will become the best you can be. 

I TOLD THE PENCIL 5 THINGS

One: “You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in someone’s hand.”

Two: “You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you’ll need it to become a better pencil.” 

Three: “You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.” 

Four: “The most important part of you will always be what’s inside.” 

And Five: “On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark. No matter what the condition, you must continue to write.” 

There is a price to pay for success. If you look at your lifestyle, if you look at your bank account, if you look at your marriage, if you look at your job. To become better you must put in efforts. Won’t you rather pay and be happy.

PENCIL STORY CONT…

Now replacing the place of the pencil with you. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best person you can be. 

One: “You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in God’s hand. And allow other human beings to access you for the many gifts you possess.”

Two: “You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, by going through various problems in life, but you’ll need it to become a stronger person.” 

Three: “You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.” 

Four: “The most important part of you will always be what’s on the inside.” 

And Five: “On every surface you walk through, you must leave your mark. No matter what the situation, you must continue to do your duties.” 

Never allow yourself to get discouraged and think that your life is insignificant and cannot make a change.

To become someone you have never been before, you must start doing something you have never done before.

Remain Happy.

Don’t you deserve a better life?

For the best time of life, I dedicate this letter to everyone that is struggling to overcome, that has overcome but still falls back inaccuracy. Those that draws strength from the wrong places, those that cry at night before sleep, those that go on like all is well, smile at us and deep down there is pain and anger.

I came from a life of selfish ambitions, ineptitude and indifference. If you know how darken my heart has become, an expressionless-ness, dissipated by lack of motivation, callously shaped by lack of evidence and dark edges.

Don’t get me wrong, I have been lucky, at a young age, I had a diplomatic passport, I have been to places, spoken to top government policy makers, it was an honour, BUT. 

What about my loss of self discovery, purpose of living, what do I really want out of life, who am I? 

I could not answer many life questions, and if those questions remain unanswered, life become more meaningless, I embrace the future fearlessly but with vagueness.



My personality requires I see evidence in everything. Don’t talk to me about religion: if you lack it, don’t preach it, if you don’t have it why tell me to own it. I was looking for the end to things.

Larry King said he is not an atheist and he is not a Christian, he falls within the category of people that think they dropped into life. Always asking questions.

Things will only grow from bad to worse, when you have money to feed, if you can travel to places you think happiness can be found, buy yourself things that will melodify your heart for a time, if you find a lady you think will quench you fleshy needs.

WE ALL THINK THIS IS WHAT HAPPINESS IS ALL ABOUT.

Do you wake up and look around the emptiness that is around you. Do you fall back to sin and you wish life could be taken out of you. How many bottles have you drank to forget about it. 

When I used to inhale death, I did a packet, almost every day, taking in suicidal smoke destroying my heart. How many do you still take in day to calm yourself. You are in that abusive relationship and you cannot get out because you love her/him.

How many times have you gone on fasting and praying with tears in search for answers. 

Have you cut yourself with sharp objects so that you can forgive him. Did you almost drink that poison, acid because you feel trapped.

Every night the nightmares keeps coming, you are tired. Next time you slept with him you felt like half human, crying to God again for forgiveness…

I don’t mean to count all our sins and fears, no, I didn’t mean to make you feel bad again, no, I did not mean to make you remember again no.

3 years ago I made a decision, in my one room apartment. I entered my sitting room, lock the door. I just came in from work, I looked around me again and again. 

As usual, I wanted to strike the lighter and inhale that suicidal smoke again. I said to myself, “don’t i deserve a better life” 

God placed a thought in my heart, I knew it was Him. 

I answered the question, “yes I deserve I better life” 

But I need strength, I need love, I need joy, I need answers, I need happiness, I need security, I need faith.

I told God if you can help me drop this habits and you can give me all these needs I will be yours.

All the answers will not come once, but gradually as you dwell on Gods word, you find answers, to many questions.

We need a personal relationship with God, you need to find a place with God where you can draw strength and wisdom.

Accept Christ as your saviour, rededicate your life to him, you do not need a pastor to do this, it is a personal commitment.

God loves you, He does with everything.  

EPHESIANS 1:7   In Him we have redemption (deliverance and salvation) through His blood, the remission (forgiveness) of our offenses (shortcomings and trespasses), in accordance with the riches and the generosity of His gracious favor

He will turn all things round, this is my testimony of happiness. 

Everything, every other things, your job, marriage, lifestyle, will be cared for.

Some prayers don’t get answers as at when you want them but they will be answered later, go to His word and get answers, get insights, get inspiration, get wisdom for daily living.

I encourage you to read EPHESIANS 1. Read first with the King James version and Amplified, and other versions, read over again and understand that, God has called you for His purpose, a purpose of wisdom and peace and inheritance for a fruitful living.

Gradually, you will see improvement as you dedicate your daily living to him, your mind will be renewed, your thoughts will be like freshwater,  your mind will be springing with great ideas and you will marvel.

Whenever you fall back, your mind will tells you to go back to God, ideas on how to improve your marriage will spring out, your mind will not be settled for the bottom anymore, you will be elevated.

My years of life rededicated to God, I can only say, God deserve all the praise. The life I live now cannot be bought with money or things. 

Galatians 2:20 I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.

I see many young people troubled, in search for answers. I will love you to understand that this works, God works, Jesus works, dedicate  your life to Him.

You will find happiness and joy. 

Don’t you deserve a better life?

Remain happy. 

Dealing With Adversity.

Ehi, was dealing with adversity complained to her father about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up.

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She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In one he placed carrots, in the second he placed eggs, and in the last he placed ground coffee beans. He let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

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Ehi sucked her teeth and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing. In about twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then he ladled the coffee out and placed it in a mug. Turning to her he asked, “Daring, what do you see?” she replied: “Carrots, eggs, and coffee,”

He brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. She smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. She humbly asked. “What does it mean, Father?”

He explained that each of them had faced the same adversity, boiling water, but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. But after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed to the water.

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“Which are you?” he asked his daughter.
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“When adversity knocks on your door, when that marriage seem unworkable, when living right looks impossible, when searching for jobs is fruitless, when life challenges come knocking, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?
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Leave the crowd, learn to listen to yourself

Very few people start off with great advantages, personally I did not have many opportunities of my own, my school days was not interesting, it made me ask lots of questions that I did not get answers to.
Some have opportunities and are born with silver spoons, the world goes round for them and almost everything is easy.

With a silver  spoon or without, you still have to chart your own course if you want to stand out.

Having exrayed these 2 different views on life, one mistake we can make to further dampen our chances for a happy life or plunge our appetite for greatness is following and staying  with the crowd.

One  quote from one of my favorite authors Robert Kiyosaki says “No one achieves great things by following the crowd. Have a spine. Strike your own path.” 

In other words successful people are able to draw the line, look look into the future as far as they can determine, and forge their own path into destiny.

I also want to add that: the future is always clearer when you can listen to yourself clearly. It is like listening to a new beautiful song, to get into the depth of the song, you will like to know the lyrics and the melody. 

You cannot get into the heart of the song if your environment is noisy. 

Most times we move into our closure, with eyes closed, plugged earpiece, we listen and digest the music we create pictures with it, it becomes part of us.

Note these:

1. When you leave the crowd you listen to yourself more clearly, you are now able to draw charts for your plans. Your thoughts are clearer,

The charts create willingness to succeed, consetration, focus.

 2.  It helps you identify your strength,   it shows you what you can do and cannot do. 

Thus your ability to identify and plan position you.

People who lacks the ability to leave the crowd and listen to themselves lacks the ability to master their appetite.

Before you can stand out, you need to leave the crowd. Listen to yourself, make your vision clearer, and you will stand out.

Getting along with your boss

When was the last time you sent your boss a txt.

A good relationship between you and your boss makes life easier in the work space, I know how  a bad working environment feels too.

I have seen people slapped, abused, disgraced and I tell you it not interesting.

More also, I have seen people favoured, promoted, loved by doing little things other don’t do.

Its not hard to make your boss like you.

Your boss happiness is your happiness.

Make your boss office his second home.

Always make him feel special.

These points above are techniques that have worked and still does.

Your goal as an employee is to make life easy for your boss at work, and this means, you must develop yourself in your filed to work smarter and harder.

 1. Work harder to get more done.

 2. Work smarter to do more with little time.

 3. Learn to predict what your boss will need.

 4. Always be on hand to assist him when he/she is confused.

 5. Learn to Sacrifice.

One of the things that has endeared me to my bosses is the enthusiasm around me. In my line of work, I take orders and instructions always.

Sometimes different orders from different bosses with little break at intervals. The willingness and attitude I put into each is always wonderful. 

You must have the “I got this attitude” to succeed and to make them happy. 

At lease try

Also, Your boss must know you love and enjoy your work, make him feel it, smile when you do it. 

Be passionate about it and let it show. Oh my, I remember sometimes ago, in my office, the work load was much and it keeps coming and I was not showing tiredness and at a point I stretched and breathed out a long breathe, and I continued.

My boss said, Sam, let’s go home, he paid for fuelling and and dinner. 

Be open, ask questions. When last did you meet your boss to help you with a better way to solve a problem. 

When did you share your new idea with him or her and explain how that will improve his/her working experience.

Be open to ask for help, most times the only help we ask for is cash and leave days. Suggest how you can improve your work and show results.

Finally, show concerns for his family and out of work life while you keep yours private. Don’t bug your boss with your issues, don’t look moody all day because of family issues. Do your work.

But show that you care, when he travels send me a message, buy him a tie, get toy’s for his/her kids. 

I have worked in different states withing and outside Nigeria, under several bosses and I sure know how to stay happy.

Remain happy.

The Chronicles Of Sam- Find The Confidence In You

One day Jake, a once successful business executive is now deep in debt and could see no way out.

His Creditors were closing in on him. Suppliers were demanding payments. His mortgage house will soon be gone all he has worked for will sink.

Jake sat on the bench in front of his garden, head in hands, wondering if anything could save his company from bankruptcy, how will his parent take this. His wife always believed in his wisdom.

While in how thoughts an old man walking by, stopped before him. “I can see that something is troubling you,” he said.

After listening to Jakes woes, the old man said, “I believe I can help you.”

He asked Jake his name, wrote out a check, and pushed it into his hand saying, “Take this money. Meet me here exactly one year from today, and you can pay me back at that time.”

Then he turned and disappeared as quickly as he had come.

Jake  saw in his hand a check for $500,000, signed by John D. Rockefeller, then one of the richest men in the world!

“I can erase my money worries in an instant!” he realized. But instead, Jake decided to put the uncashed check in his safe. Just knowing it was there might give him the strength to work out a way to save his business, he thought.

With renewed optimism, he negotiated better deals and extended terms of payment. He closed several big sales. Within a few months, he was out of debt and making money once again.

Exactly one year later, he returned to the same spot with the uncashed check. At the agreed-upon time, the old man appeared. But just as the executive was about to hand back the check and share his success story, a nurse came running up and grabbed the old man.

“I’m so glad I caught him!” she cried. “I hope he hasn’t been bothering you. He’s always escaping from the rest home and telling people he’s John D. Rockefeller.”

And she led the old man away by the arm.

The astonished Jake just stood there, stunned. All year long he’d been wheeling and dealing, buying and selling, convinced he had half a million dollars behind him.

Suddenly, he realized that it wasn’t the money, real or imagined, that had turned his life around. It was his newfound self-confidence that gave him the power to achieve anything he went after.

All you need to turn your situation around is in you. You can do it. Do it.

My One Dollar Watch.

Its almost a year since I have been using my fine wrist watch with a dark green belt. 

That kind of watch you wear and you start have the feeling you are the only “wearer” in town. Its not really a digital watch but it tells current time.

The watch has an army green straps and it built with a big face, which makes it unique for me. The one dollar price is not a problem, when I  wear it gallantly I flaunt it like it’s worth more.

As we all know time cannot be caught because lost time is never to get again. Time is life itself. So, I take my time seriously, and my watch? I love it.

You should get a watch if you don’t have one.

One day, I was halfway down the staircase when I remembered my hand was bear, it was like something was wrong with my neat uniform dress.  

I mused, should I go out without a wrist watch,  i imagine how women stay faithful to their makeup every minutes of a day, 365 days of the year, some even wear it to sleep.

Midday, that faithful Monday, I thought about the price of the watch, how it doesn’t matter to me, howbit makes me feel complete. Talking about purpose and value.

An article on BBCnewhub wrote that the world most expensive wrist watch with an exceptional look, Chopard 210 karat  is around $25,000,000.

CAN YOU IMAGINE!

And here I am sitting bragging about my one dollar machine, it is one in town too, at least I haven’t seen any person wear it.

The happiness it gives.

Life can be beautiful if we don’t value everything it brings by only the price tag.

1. Using price tag alone, makes us loose a lot from life.
2. We over price people and we miss a lot in friendships and wisdom.
3. Sometimes we even tag people mindless, by assuming they can offer us nothing.
4. Most of us have a few dollar we can put to use, but we will prefer to buy the most expensive items only to find out, we’ve only wasted time and resources.

My one dollar watch tells me time, it complement my uniform and people sometimes over price.

Get to know people, use things, go to places, listen to stories, learn people, you will discover a lot is hidden behind the price you see at the surface.

Your Future is in your hands.

Let me tell you a story quickly that will illustrate the topic above. 

 Once upon a time, a long time ago, in a land far away, there lived an old man in a house on top of a hill. He had dedicated his entire life to study and meditation. 

He was known far and wide for his intelligence, sensi-tivity, and wisdom. Politicians, businesspeople, and dignitaries came tovisit him and ask him questions. His answers were always correct. 

He seemed to have a special faculty that enabled him to cut to the essence of any problem or issue. 

When his answers and solutions were implemented, the result was always excellent. His fame soon spread throughout the land.

In the village below the hill was a group of boys who played together. Sometimes they climbed the hill to visit the old man and askhim questions, for which he always seemed have the correct answer.

Over time, it became a little game, with the boys continually trying to think of a question that the old man could not answer. But they werenever successful.

One day, the ringleader of the group, a called the others around him and said, “I have finally found a way to stump the old man. 

Here in my hand, I have a bird. We will go and ask the old man if the bird is alive or dead. If he says that it is dead, I will release it and it will fly away.

 If he says that it is alive, I will crush it, and the bird will be dead. Either way, he will at last have been proven wrong.”

Excited about the prospect of finally catching the old man with a wrong answer, they hurried up the hill. 

The old man watched them coming and noticed the eager looks on their faces. 

Then the ringleader stepped forward and asked, “Old man, I have a bird here in my hands. Is it alive or is it dead?”

The old man looked at their mischievous, expectant faces and then

quietly said, to him, “it is in your hands.”

What you eventually become is what you did with it what you have in your hands.